Sunday, July 31, 2016
You need this kind of girl in your life;
Who will accept you after you have already got thru the struggle.
Who will be of same cast, same religion as yours.
Who will be chosen by your family.
Who will love you as per her convenience.
Who will demand time when you have none to spare.
Who will be busy when you make all time in the world.
Who will not understand your schedules.
Who will demand you do things a certain way.
Who will fight with you for material things.
Who will need your money to run an uncalled for lifestyle.
Who will ignore your needs and demand her wants to be completed.
Who will treat you as nothing more than a show off.
Who will be nothing more than your remote.
Who will throw surprises for you to please the societies.
Who will demand obnoxious gifts on her birthday.
Who will choose you because you are well settled, you have your own house, job and a bank balance to fall back on.
And you know what that is exactly what you deserve because when you had met a girl
Who motivated you.
Who lifted you above your dreams.
Who stayed with you during the dark days.
Who loved you fiercely with everything that she got.
Who thought only about you when you were thinking of other girls.
Who cared for you like her family.
Who was self sufficient and did not demand money.
Who needed your attention, time and just a little reassurance that you would be with her.
Who gave up on her own ethics to ensure that you would not fall short.
Who makes you her world.
Who holds your hand thru a world tour or even thru staying in street.
Who would understand you in and out.
You let her go. She fought for what she wanted. She echoed her concerns. You ignored. You were indifferent. Your indifference killed her. She will never be the same again. She will never look at any other person the way she see's you. Your 'least bothered' attitude to the battle which she kept on trying time and again to win ensured that she finally gave up. You showed her that love can not be forced and certainly not taught. She found her soul mate, her best friend, her buddy, her anger, her pacifier, her home, her shelter, her want, her need, her universe in you. And all you could see in her was a person who you were too used to being around. No, do not term it Love. No, do not term it Friendship. For both will be an insult to her feelings for you. You hid her from the world. Kept her your secret. While other girls approached you. Rather than telling them you were with her, you did the exact opposite. You told her that so many girls were trying to woo you. Well, tell you what. If you enjoy the attention being showered by other girls, that is were you should be - with them. Not with the girl who goes out of her way, even without you knowing, to stay loyal to you when you don't even admit of being in a relationship with her to anyone. She calls your arms her home, she feels protected in your arms and your kisses are her lifelines - magic as she knows them and when asked what they mean to you, you say they hardly made any difference.
Look into her eyes. What do you see? The love she holds for you? The betrayed feeling of seeing you entertain other girls? The pain of you being indifferent to her love? The hopes leaving her heart? or her destroyed soul?
The eyes that once were a gateway to universe are now just black holes. No, you do not need a girl so thunderous; you need one who just drizzles a little!
- July 31, 2016
Tuesday, July 26, 2016
Life is a race! I am sure we all remember this from ’3 Idiots’. Although, as per me, life is a race… Not against time… Not against each other… But simply to catch a train from any of Mumbai & surrounding suburbs stations during peak hours, at times throughout the day.
Ever since traveling has become part of my daily routine there is no walking peacefully, it is literally a demand from entire Universe to run & that is the only way I can manage to get home on time. There is no stopping, standing, staring, stooping on a platform but simply waiting and thinking of a way to make sure you get into the train before it starts. The crowd on platform multiplies (if possible, more no. Of times than the world population) with every passing second and the probability to get into the tiny compartment of train reduces while the time taken to reach the desired destination expands. If you need to teach anyone importance of time, platforms are the place. The frustrated crowd when a train is cancelled, people running to catch the train as it starts moving from the platform, people missing train by matter of few seconds; No, they do not do this on purpose. Yes, they do fear for life. Yes, they do have family & friends waiting for them back home. Yet, everyone is in hurry to be first in the race of catching a train. Missing a train would mean infinite number of minutes of wait till the next train comes, catching the next train which is not even suppose to stop at your destination so you keep changing trains, catching a slow train rather than fast which takes forever to reach. All these are apparently not an excuse for to reach late to work next morning. The employer will not understand the hectic experience of emotional ‘atyachaar’ at the wheels of local train.
Even after managing (I doubt even God knows how) to actually get into the desired train, the fight of survival does not end. The compartments are so crowded as if the entire crowd of a stadium has been packed into one. It is very difficult to distinguish one’s own body part and belongings from that of others. You will automatically adjust yourself to whatever little place you manage to secure for standing. Seating in trains is the most precious thing during peak hours, if you actually manage to get a seat you would feel on top of the world, an achiever. As soon as you get a seat, you will feel many envious eyes stare at you, many other coming over to ask where you get down so that they can grab your seat. Many a times I have come to realize the miracles of train seats, no matter if you are fat, thin, tall, short, with luggage, without baggage, there is always four people on any given seat.
God forbid you have to get down at the stations in between the final destination of train. 30 Seconds of halt at all the stations for trains where as the entire crowd in compartment holds their breath, thinking of what is to come now. People getting down the train are at mercy of those who are about to get into the train, even before the train comes to complete halt, everyone is trying to get down and others trying to board at the same time, none of them having patience to wait and blaming each other for inconvenience caused. The proportion of people getting down from a train to people boarding the train is 1:2, and still there is place in already overcrowded compartment to cramp in the one passenger who runs and catches the train holding on to one single rod for dear life.
All the above described is during normal circumstances which tend to worsen when it rains, when the trains are late, when even a single work in progress in going on. A salute to everyone experiencing the Mumbai Style train traveling. Although the messed up situation, Mumbai and Mumbaikars will not function without the beloved local trains, all of us are thankful they are still running and functional!
- July 26, 2016
Sunday, July 24, 2016
No. She is not the one for you. Never will be.
She is sun. She will burn you at times. But you are afraid of bruises.
She is river. She will shape you like the rocks. But you are afraid of change.
She is tree. She will shade you from the storms. But you are afraid to dance in storms.
She is moon. She will shine the light when you need the most. But you are afraid of dark.
She is star. She will twinkle just for you. But you are afraid of light.
She is wind. She will take you in directions unknown. But you are afraid of unknown.
She is thunder. She will light up your world. But you are afraid of noise.
She is rain. She will pour down love. But you are afraid of even a little drizzle.
She is glass. She will show your reflection. But you are afraid of cuts.
She is rainbow. She will make everything colorful. But you are afraid of following the roads.
She is spring. She makes the flowers blossom. But you are afraid of climate changes.
She is winter. She will shield your from heat. But you are afraid of cold.
She is summer. She adds brightness to everything she touches. But you are afraid of tans.
She is XL Coffee. She is strong. But you are afraid as you need your decaf.
She is ocean. She is vast and abundant. But you are afraid to leave your shores.
She is hill. She wants to reach the top. But you are afraid to dream.
She is mountain. She stands tall. But you are afraid of heights.
She is snowflake. She is pure. But you are afraid of her patterns.
She is galaxy. She is millions, billions and trillions joint together. But you are afraid of crowd.
She is sky. She is clear. But you are afraid of clarity.
She is novel. She will transport you to a different world. But you are afraid to read.
She is door. She opens the adventures within. But you are afraid to open.
She is wreck. She makes it look like art. But you are afraid to paint.
She is query. She will make you question everything. But you are afraid of answers.
She is painting. She is the finest. But you are afraid of masterpiece.
She is fierce. She will take you to the end of earth. But you are afraid to travel.
She is solitude. She will show you independence. But you are afraid outside comfort zone.
She is motivation. She will be nothing less than inspiration. But you are afraid to pursue.
She is rhythm. She will sing songs of unknown. But you are afraid of the lyrics.
She is time. She will not be stopped. But you are afraid of speed.
She is mud. She is mixture of earth and water. But you are afraid of getting dirty.
She is risk. She will expose you to everything not familiar. But you are afraid of different.
She is hue. She will bring out the intense character. But you are afraid of intensity.
She is universe. She is everything. But you are afraid of everything.
No. She is not the one for you and never will be!
Because you are the most beautiful poem I have ever seen. No, you do not need validations from society. No, you do not need assurances from anyone. No, you are not perfect. No, you do not have a rhyming theme but the most heart touching poem doesn’t. No, you do not need to search for a soul mate. No, you do not need a prince charming to rescue you. Trust me, you will know baby girl, you will know when it is real. Do not let ungrateful boys ruin you and spoil your mood over them. For one day you are going to meet the man of your dreams and everything is eventually going to be alright. How do I know you ask? Because I just do. You will feel it in your heart, in your mind; your intuitions will speak thousand words. The world will not be the same as you knew earlier. No, he will not come silently and bring stabilization in your life but he will come and question the existence of everything and you will never feel anything has been more perfect ever. He will encourage you, be passionate, adventurous, and more than anything else he will be calm you find in all the chaos. No, don’t you dare go out looking for him and meeting jerks who don’t give a damn about you. What’s meant to be will be. Trust the universe to ensure that your paths will cross when the time is right and when that does happen do not shy away from love baby. Give him your 100%, love him whole heart. Treat him like a king because you know that he deserves nothing less than that and watch how he makes you the queen. Together you will build an empire which will keep all the haters and negativity at bay. Life will be at its best.
Till then and even later enjoy the craziness that you carry within. Let the wildness run free. Let your dreams fly high. Let the light through your broken pieces for that is the only way to heal. Let the fears take backstage for once. Laugh whenever you can. Smile at the memories created. Forget the past and move on. Move on to a better future. Move on and travel towards the light of hope you see. You are masterpiece, still in making; do not let anyone tell you otherwise. Live Life Queen Size!
Wednesday, July 13, 2016
She makes round rotis, sanskari; She doesn’t. What has her mother taught her?
She cries, Weak; She rebels, Attitude problem.
She speaks her mind, Outcast; She keeps her mouth shut, she doesn’t have her own views.
She wears a saree, she is too traditional; She wears a dress, she is too modern.
She works, she is self centric; She doesn’t, she doesn’t know how to support her family.
She is well educated; will not get good husband. She is not; lacks the will to learn.
She cooks delicious food, she is lovable. She doesn’t, what did she do while growing up?
She is 25, Single; She is 26, Unmarried.
“Yaar, woh toh ladki hai, kya kar legi?” – This is how Society perceives women.
Why limit this to the women though? Do guys have it easy?
He makes rotis, Girlish; He doesn’t, where is equality?
He cries, Weak; He rebels, attitude problem.
He wears tradition, people laugh (aaj koi function hai); He suits up, still laugh (kyun oversmart ban raha hai)
He works hard, work-o-holic; he sticks to 9 to 5 job, lacks ambitions.
He wants to pursue further education, when will you earn? He doesn’t, how will you earn?
He helps his wife in household chores, girlish. He doesn’t, has his mother not raised him well?
He is 25, He is learning to settle down. He is 26, Why have you not figured out your life yet?
“Yaar, woh toh ladka hai, woh nahi karega toh kaun karega?” – This is how Society perceives Men
Who are these people we call “Society” It is collectively made by us. Stop giving people hard times. Everyone you see and every person you know will have some shortcomings, will not be perfect. Empathize; put yourself in their shoes before you judge. Look at yourself before you comment. You have a life difficult enough without taking add on headaches trying to figure out others life.
She is 26 yet not married; let her be!
He is working hard; he has his ambitions & family needs to be met; let him figure it out!
Life is simple, do not complicate it.
Live your life. Dream. Dance. Play. Work hard. Be ambitious. Achieve goals. Travel. Laugh. Smile. Let go of your demons. Look forward to your future.
- July 13, 2016